Yes, a birthday is a special day, but why not show your partner just how special they are and make it an entire week? 

From small gestures to big ones, here is a 7-day plan full of sexy ideas that will keep both of you very busy. Also, don’t feel like you have to do everything in this order. Feel free to shuffle things around or add your own ideas!


PLAY GAMES – Try some strip poker or play around with a pair of naughty love dice. There are also adult board games designed to give you an unforgettable night.

DISH OUT THE FOREPLAY – Both sexes can be guilty of rushing through foreplay. That’s why it’s a good idea to take this opportunity to slow things down. Kiss every part of their body. Lick them like they’re ice cream. Build the sexual tension until they’re a shivering, whimpering mess … and keep going.

GIVE THEM A STRIP TEASE – If you’re one of the blessed humans that is gifted with rhythm and coordination, why not put it to good use and give them a strip show (maybe lap dance). If you’re nervous but still want to do this, they might be strip exercise classes in your area. Google and see.


GIVE ALL THE CUDDLES – It doesn’t always have to be about sex. A good, long cuddle (complete with caresses and sweet whispers) can be as fulfilling.

GO SKINNY DIPPING –  If you’re next to a lake, river, or ocean, or you have your own pool, YAY! Peel of your clothes and have a sexy swim. Caution, sex in public places can land you in trouble.

GIVE UNFORGETTABLE ORAL – Blow your partner’s mind with some top-notch oral sex – and, like foreplay, take your time. Also, if it’s a lady, aim for multiple orgasms.


PARTAKE IN APHRODISIAS – Shine a light on your culinary skills and whip together a full course meal made with a pile of aphrodisiacs. Even if you’re a bit lost in the kitchen, simple strawberries and dark chocolate dipping sauce will be fantastic.

GIVE AN EROTIC MASSAGE – Set aside a couple hours to give them a full body, oil massage. Light candles, put on some relaxing music, and turn them into a gooey mess of relaxation.

BODY BUFFET – If you don’t want to cook at all, gather some sweet condiments and slather, drip, or brush them onto your partner … then get licking. Try chocolate, honey, edible lube, nut butter, maple syrups, ice cream, or citrus juices etc. This is way hotter when done on a famous sex swing of the century. Be innovative!


MORE PDAs – Whether at home or outside, amp up the public displays of affection throughout the day. And, to hell with the uncomfortable stares or shouts of “get a room.” It’s not your problem they’re cold inside.

NAUGHTY TREASURE HUNT –  If you have a special gift you want to give them, why not make it extra fun and leave a series of notes around the house. Each clue will lead your partner to the next (and pile on the sexual innuendo or naughty memories)

GET A SEX TOY – Give your gent a masturbator and leave them in the bedroom with some porn. If the passion of your life is a lady, give her a rabbit vibrator or a bullet vibe. OR, if she’s really into sex toys, find something she doesn’t have yet. If you know she’s a power queen, get your hands on a Hitachi magic wand. Then give them some alone time with their new best friend.


SEXY LINGERIE – The important thing to remember is this … it can be for the birthday boy/girl OR for the gift giver to wear. Hey, if your budget can swing it, you can get something for both of you. If you don’t know what to buy, spend a month or two beforehand prodding for ideas or suggestions.

BOUDOIR PHOTO SHOOT – Get your lover to put on something sexy, set the appropriate 3-point lighting, and snap a ton of pictures.

BE A PORN STAR –  Go beyond still images and film your sexcapades. Aside from the erotic nature of the act, you get to watch it later when you are up for another round!


STAY IN BED LONGER – Save this day for one of their days off and let them sleep in. If you have kids, make sure they don’t bother mommy or daddy. If you’re sure you won’t be bothered, both of you stay in bed together and have a cuddle-fest (or sex-fest).

REALIZE THEIR FANTASY – Fantasies are tricky for some people to execute in real life. But, if it’s manageable and you’re both comfortable trying, put on that uniform, break out the handcuff, or invite that third person over. 


GET A ROOM – This can also be for a Friday night, so you can have the whole weekend. Double points if it’s a place they’ve been wanting to go to and have been dropping hints about. Triple points if it’s something romantic like a lakeside cabin with a fireplace. 

SEXY BATH – Dip into a tub full of hot water and bubble and soak up the intimacy. Don’t forget the kisses, cuddles, massage, and/or foreplay.

NOOKIE AT A PARTY – Feeling daring? If you’re out for your party, or even having it at home with friends, slip away to someplace private and sneak in a quickie.


TEXT MESSAGES – Make sure they get a bunch of messages throughout the week – romantic, naughty, cute, anything. Remind them how wonderful they are and how lucky you are to have them in your life. You can also get naughty by playing sexting games.

SEX POSITION BOOK – It can be the classic karma sutra or a modern-day sex position guide (online or otherwise). Choose your fav of the day and go to town. Wash, rinse, and repeat for seven days; each day with a new position.

SEXY SCRATCH TICKETS –  You can DIY then (lots of sites will teach you how) or just order them online. They can scratch a ticket anytime they want and call in the reward.

DAILY LETTER – Craft seven notes that describe what you find sexy about them, what you want to do to their body (or any other sexy words you can muster). It’s like the naughty text messages, but more intimate and old school. Slip them into their adult lunch box so they have a surprise at work or leave them in place you know they’ll find.

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If this feels overwhelming, don’t worry! Even one of these ideas per day will be something they will never forget.

Do you have any other ideas for gifts and/or activities? Share in the comments!